“Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.” ~ Unknown
It is said that we truly fall in love with only three people in our whole lifetime. It is also said that, somehow, we do need every single one of these loves for a different reason.
Most of the time, our first love usually happens when we are really young, or in high school even. This one is believed to be the idealistic love – because it’s not much different from all the love fairy tales we used to read when we were kids.
It is he love that it is expected to happen just for society’s sake. And that’s way we enter into it with a suspicious believe that this should be our only love, even if it doesn’t necessarily feel right. This puts us in a position to ignore every possible personal truth just to make this relationship work because we are driven by the belief that this is what love is actually supposed to be.
In this type of love, the perception of the others and how they view us is kind of more important to us and how we actually feel.
This is the love that it just looks right only at the moment when it’s happening.
The second love on the list is actually our hard love – which means that from this experience we to learn some really important lessons about who we really are, but also how often we want or need to feel loved. This love can hurt a lot, whether if it’s tough pain, lies or manipulation.
We think that we have a role in making different choices than our first, but in reality what we really do is really just making choices out of the need to learn lessons. The second love could become a cycle that we are often repeating because we tend to think that somehow this ending will be different than every other. Of course, each time we try, it always appears to end a lot worse than before.
This is when trying to make things work all of a sudden becomes even more important that it actually should be.
It’s is the love that we wished it was the right one.
The last (third) love is the one that we unfortunately almost never see it coming. The one that most of the times looks kind of wrong to us and that has the power to destroy all the lingering ideas that we’ve believed in so far. This is the love that usually comes too easy and somehow it feels too good to be true. The connection in this kind of love can’t be simply explained and that’s why it always knocks us off our feet because it came to us completely unexpected and we’ve never really prepared for it.
We simply come together with someone and somehow magically everything fits and in this kind of love there is no place for any ideal expectations about how each person should be acting. Both partners are just the way they are, and they completely accept each other.
It is the love that keeps knocking on our door no matter how long it takes us to answer.
It’s the love that feels just right.